Engagement Party Make Your Own

Question: Is it ok to have an engagement party if no wedding is planned?

(Posted by: Jennifer on 2010-01-03 20:34:08)

We aren't planning on getting married yet because of money problems. I was wondering when we should have the engagement party. Should we have it soon, or wait till we start planning the wedding?

Posted by: Wilma F on 2010-01-03, 22:28:16

All an engagement party is, is the formal announcement that you are engaged and it's the chance for your families to meet each other. It's also often when you start planning your wedding. quite often, the engagement party is the first chance both sides of the family have to meet. and that's all it is---nothing more and nothing less. engagement parties are not gift giving occasions. It's not like a bridal shower. you don't have to have your wedding planned yet. you don't even have to have your wedding date decided yet.

Posted by: chicanini07 on 2010-01-03, 20:38:37

I wud say wait till u can start planning ur wedding.

Posted by: seamstress on 2010-01-03, 20:45:43

If you have no wedding plans because you cannot afford to get married then, why should everyone afford an engagement gift when you have no wedding plans?? No, do not plan an engagement party until you have a wedding date planned, for real.

Posted by: tweety on 2010-01-03, 20:59:44

No that's like planning a baby shower but your not even pregnant ..Wait until you can afford it .

Posted by: Frances C on 2010-01-03, 21:07:51

I think you should wait on that.

Posted by: vic on 2010-01-03, 21:12:59

Well your celebrating the engagement not the wedding..so you can still have the party. because closer to the wedding, you will then have the shower and the bachelor partys. do the engagement party now to celebrate the engagement.

Posted by: mrsbtobe on 2010-01-03, 21:29:37

Yes, but please don't make it a gift-grab. Don't register for gifts it, and I think people would prefer if you made it informal and requested no gifts. It's more of a "come celebrate with us " as opposed to "we are engaged! so buy us something! " ETA: I may have mis-read your question. But in order to have a legitimate engagement party, you need to have a ring on your finger and plans of ONE day marrying him.

Posted by: LTF on 2010-01-03, 22:28:48

Wait until you start planning.

Posted by: String of pearls on 2010-01-04, 02:19:16

Not really, it kind of seems just like asking for gifts.

Posted by: Anne on 2010-01-04, 04:56:29

I agree with everyone else. Go ahead and announce your engagement if you want, but wait on having a party. Once you are actually in the planning stages for the wedding -- have decided on a date or at least a time frame, then go ahead and have a party. (or actually, I should say, let someone else give you a party)

Posted by: truefirstedition on 2010-01-04, 06:54:44

If you can't afford a wedding, how can you afford an engagement party?