Engagement Party Make Your Own

Question: Simple question about engagement parties...?

(Posted by: Lizzy on 2010-02-15 08:30:20)

I have never done this before or even been to one, but who traditionally throws a couple an engagement party? Are there gifts that you have to give?

Posted by: Avis B on 2010-02-15, 09:13:54

An engagement party has a specific purpose and that is to formally announce the engagement of Mary Smith to John White. Traditionally, the girl's parents host (plan, organize, and pay for) the engagement party. If the girl's parents are unable to host the party, then the boy's parents or a close friend or relative can host. The couple should NOT host their own engagement party unless there are no other alternatives. The engagement party should occur within 4-6 weeks of the presentation of the engagement ring or the proposal. Printed invitations with a RSVP should be mailed out at least two weeks in advance of the party. The formality of the engagement party can range from a three course dinner in a banquet room at a hotel to a backyard barbecue at someone's home. You can invite ten people to an Italian restaurant on a Friday night or you can invite two hundred people to a community hall on a Sunday afternoon. The engagement party is NOT a gift giving event. The couple should be not registered with any bridal or wedding registry until after the party takes place. The couple does not give any gifts to their guests but you are welcome to give "party favors' if you wish (but it's not really necessary). Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

Posted by: Mrs♥B on 2010-02-15, 08:37:48

Traditionally, it's the parents that throw the party, but anyone can throw it for them. Generally, the couple doesn't throw it themselves. Technically it isn't a gift giving occasion, but some people do bring gifts anyway.

Posted by: Ryan's mom on 2010-02-15, 08:39:39

Very few people actually have "Engagement " parties. Bridal showers are normally put on by the Maid/ Matron of Honor. They send out the invitations, decorate, get the food ready, etc. Make sure whomever you choose as your MOH is capable of handling all of it.

Posted by: lalala on 2010-02-15, 08:45:54

Usually the parents, but really any family member or friend can throw it. It is not appropriate for the bride and groom to throw their own engagement party - it is gauche to throw any kind of party in honor of yourself. Engagement parties are not a gift giving occasion, though usually if I am invited to one I will bring a nice bottle of wine.

Posted by: Messykatt on 2010-02-15, 08:49:20

I agree with Mrs. B and the only thing I'd add is that these are not supposed to be lavish events (since most people don't have them). It's usually family and closest friends, and is not a gift giving event.