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Question: How do i ask for honeymoon funds on wedding invitations?

(Posted by: Blaise S on 2010-01-23 21:58:33)

Is it wrong that when we send out our wedding invitations we mention something about a fund for our honeymoon, as opposed to our wedding gifts being something like household objects???? If that's not stingy, how would you suggest wording that????

Posted by: offbeat_W_gowns on 2010-01-24, 01:21:26

Some one said it was tacky...who cares!?!? some one is always goin to think that some aspect or another is tacky...so heres how you can do it...simply say that cash gifts are also glady welcomed...dont say prefreered cuz then you will look greedy...but if you just mention it on the registry card that gives your guests the option of buying a gift giving money or jus a card. that way theres no pressure on any one and you may still get enough for a decent honeymoon....plus watever you return from the gifts you get. but like i sed who cares what other people think...if they dont like it they dont have to do it at their wedding. times are tight, if people are gonna give you stuff anyway it might as well be something you need and will actually use.

Posted by: monsteroflockness77 on 2010-01-23, 22:10:49

Actually that's not all that uncommon, epically not that uncommon for older couples who are already established and have everything they want already. There is a company who will let you buy a vacation, and then on your invitation there will be a website or phone number of that company. Your guests can call and then give the company money. What money they did give to the company will then be given back to you. I'm sorry but I can't remember what the company is called. I saw it on the news a few months ago. Perhaps google could help.

Posted by: Karin C on 2010-01-23, 22:30:19

There is no way you can mention a honeymoon fund on your invitation without committing an etiquette felony and having people think you're being grasping and greedy. Etiquette is very clear: when you issue an invitation to an event, that is not a bill for a gift. An invitation is a request that someone join you as you host an occasion for celebration. All the guest is obliged to bring is themself. No gift is required. If you would rather have cash than gifts, your options are limited: you can register with someplace that allows gift returns for cash. And you can ask your friends and family to quietly, discreetly spread the word that you would prefer cash. And there's always eBay if you get gifts you really don't want to keep and can't return for cash. A point about requests for cash: that puts your guests on the spot. The economy is tight right now, many people are hurting for cash. If they gave the actual sum of cash that they could afford, they might be perceived as being cheapy or stingy. Some people are very good at bargain-shopping, and may be able to find a nice gift at a bargain price; they might also give you a treasure of their own, something that they couldn't afford to buy. Asking for money puts your guests in a corner and a polite host/ hostess doesn't want to do that to his/ her guests.

Posted by: Me on 2010-01-23, 23:03:50

Karin C said it best, asking for money on your invite is tacky. Where I am from we normally give cash as a gift. I wouldn't think to give a "real " gift unless it was with some cash. If I am close to the couple I will ask if they prefer it to be cash or a check.

Posted by: shamrockbaby87 on 2010-01-24, 00:41:44

You absolutely cannot mention gifts or money on the wedding invitations. Why not? Because guests are not required to give you a gift. You invite them to the wedding because you care about them and want to share your special day with them, not because you want their money (even if you DO want their money, you can't let them know that!). However, it is perfectly acceptable to have friends and family members spread your wishes by word of mouth. You can also create a wedding website for the big day. The website could have directions to the ceremony and reception sites, engagement photos, and extra details -- such as that if any guests should choose to give a gift, you would prefer cash for the honeymoon. Put a separate card in the wedding invitation envelope with the wedding website URL. Also, don't forget about the dollar dance and money tree that many couples choose to do at their wedding reception. The dollar dance is where people pay cash ($1 or whatever they want to pay) to dance with the bride or groom. The money tree is an artificial tree sitting on a table at the reception where guests can hang envelopes stuffed with money or little notes to the bride and groom. I'm not sure how common it is, but just to make sure people know what to do with the tree, have someone tie a few dollars to the tree beforehand (that'll give the hint that they're supposed to put money on the tree!). Between these two things, my sister and her husband raised several hundred dollars for their honeymoon!

Posted by: Myth_Understood on 2010-01-24, 00:48:20

"Come to our wedding and buy us our honeymoon. " <~~~~~~~ Totally classless, completely inappropriate, improper, tacky, lacking in good judgment and about 50 other negative things that should give you the impression that it's a really bad idea. If you can't afford a honeymoon, then don't get married. Wait until you're better able to afford it yourselves, instead of charging your wedding GUESTS admission by asking them to finance your honeymoon. Or, get married now, and do what the rest of us do ... save your money for the things you want.