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Question: Wedding invitation wording for the reception and bar?

(Posted by: Lily on 2010-02-26 09:12:22)

I am designing my own wedding invitations, and I'm not sure how to word it: we are having a cash bar where our guests will pay for their drinks, with the first round on us. How do I word it nicely? It's not a formal invitation as we are not formal people, but we'd still like it to sound like a wedding invitation! Thanks

Posted by: Kat on 2010-02-26, 09:14:29

That sounds like a good idea. :-) Maybe you could word it just as you said: "First round is on us! " ...just curious though - how are you going to account for who has already had their free round? Will each person get a token they have to give to the bartender, or...?

Posted by: southern belle on 2010-02-26, 09:17:08

Say something like following the ceremony, there will be a reception with hor'duevers (howver you spell it) and a cash bar (first round is on us)

Posted by: Wishuponastar on 2010-02-26, 09:18:39

.You do not put information about cash bar on invitation. It would be very confusing for the bar tender to know who already had a first drink and who was on second drink. I would just make all cash bar. They will figure it out when they get there. If you wanted to pay for something, you could put a bottle of inexpensive red and a bottle of inexpensive white wine on each table. Have a lovely day. Just do a nice invitation inviting them and give time , date and place. Best Wishes

Posted by: Lilli on 2010-02-26, 09:22:33

Oh, it's such bad, bad etiquette to have a cash bar at a wedding. But if you are going to do it, there's no proper way to list such a thing on an invite.

Posted by: Mrs.Cpl.Winstead on 2010-02-26, 09:33:56

As much as i would love to do a cash bar bc it would save us 23$ per head im told that's a no-no by many ppl. but its your day you can do what ever the heck you want. ive seen these things in wedding magazines where to do thee first drink on the House. its like a little ticket placed at each attendants seat. that allows them to go receive a drink on you and at the end of the night the bartender gives you the total. its not like the bartender will have a full array of people there to keep track of either. just you guest and he can right the price of the drink on the back of each ticket so he can tally them up. good luck also you can go to these sites for wedding etiquette superweddings.com/ etiquette.html brides.com/ etiquette/

Posted by: lucky22 on 2010-02-26, 10:15:01

I personally would not put it on the invite. Have the word spread threw your parents his parents & wedding party just if some one is asking about the wedding. I hear its very popular to do a cash bar. It cuts down on the drunks & your bill. I would just do the tokens (that way for the people who don't drink they can give theirs away) Or you could just very simple do kegs & when they are gone they are gone. 2 kegs & systems, depending on how many guest & how many drink maybe cheaper. Plus having people down shots even if they are paying at your wedding is never a good idea. I know a few of my friends even though they do drink alot they did 1 glass of champagne for the toast & other wise it was a dry wedding.

Posted by: Seafoam Green on 2010-02-26, 10:44:25

Even if you're not technically supposed to put 'cash bar' on an ivitation (I'm going to look that up, because I've never seen that etiquette rule in writing), I think its only courteous to your guests to put a small and simple "Cash Bar " at the bottom of the invite so they know to bring money. Example: Reception to follow at 123 Main Street, Happy Town USA 5:00pm Dinner and dancing (optional line) Cash bar Don't say anything about the 1st round, its too much info for the invite. Just make the invite short and sweet, and they'll be in for a pleasant surprise when they show up and get a drink for free.

Posted by: Me on 2010-02-26, 13:09:42

I understand it is different from place to place, but where I am from cash bars are thought to be rude. If you are looking to save some money, wine and beer only is the way to go. You would be taking care of your guests but not having the expense of a top shelf open bar. Think about it from your guests point of view. - they are your guests not the patrons of your venue - they are traveling to share you special day - they are dressing up and most likely giving you gifts - why should they be charge for an event that you are hosting? Yes it is your day. But by inviting others to share it with you, you owe it to them to be a good host. If you have to cut back to save money there are better ways to do it. Your guests may not remember the flowers. Chances are the centerpeices will be forgotten. The favors will be in the trash or gathering dust. What they will remember is that they had to shell out even more cash because you had a cash bar. Is that the impression you want to leave them with? I know I'd be dipping into the cash I was giving as a gift to pay for my drinks.