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Posted by: kill_yr_television on 2010-07-10, 16:40:07
You don't say "so and so invites you, " you say "the presence of so and so is desired. " If it is a religious wedding, you say The honor of the presence of [write in each name, no &family or &guest balony] is desired at the marriage of ... or if it isn't religious, you say The pleasure of the company of [write in each name, no &family or &guest balony] is requested at a small dance to celebrate the marriage of ... The two different wordings are because you can't invite people to a religious service; it is God's House, God is The Host, not you. You name each name so that it is clear who is NOT invited. If you don't know a name, find out. Invite And Guest only if some unfortunate person is NAMED And Guest. And no, singles should not asked to bring a "date " to your wedding. This is a day for people the family knows and cares about, not a day to let people treat a casual date to a champagne dinner at your expense. The Wedding Industry LIES on this point, but Miss Manners and Emily Post will back me up. Of course, significant others must be invited as a couple even if you only one half of the couple. If you're not sure whether someone has a significant other, ask "Is there someone special I should be inviting for you? " and if yes, get a full name and home address. "A small dance " is an old fashioned way of saying that your party is a very special party indeed. The way you name the names depends on whether you regard any of these step parents as parents. ..... the marriage of ... Bonnie Bella Bride, daughter of Brenda Bride Newman and Douglass Newman William Scott Bride and Lulu Bride, to Gordon Gregory Groom, son of ... If any step parents are not regarded as parents, then omit that step parent's name. When two people are not together as a couple, then their names should not appear on the same line and no "and " conncect the two names. When two people are together as a couple, then an "and " connect the two names. You can put the names on one line or on two seperate lines, whichever looks better, but don't forget to put "and " between them. The parents names are mentioned so that it is perfectly clear to whoever reads the invitation who is getting married. That includes people who may be reading these invitations in 20 or 50 years, so it is important to make clear that Bonnie Bella is Brenda Newman's daughter from her union with William Bride. Who pays how much is a private matter. Keep this sort of thing private and don't let your invitations even hint at this! I hope this was helpful. Congrats and best wishes. PS Your dad is your dad whether he is in this world or has passed on to heaven. Simply list his name as a parent. If his ex wife is considered a mom, but she has "moved on with her life " as they say, then do not list your dad and step mom on the same line, as they are no longer a couple. If your ssecond mom continues to mourn your dad, then list the two names as a couple. I hope you have a great wedding and a good marriage, or maybe vice versa. |
