Wedding Invitations Make Your Own

Question: Shall i put my dads name on the wedding invitation?

(Posted by: Saima K on 2010-07-26 13:50:21)

Basically my brother is getting married in a few months. And i have been made in charge of getting the invites printed. I belong to an family and my mum has brought us up on her own! my dad went abroad and re married and has not returned to the uk since 12 years. I was 12 or 13 at the time and i have 3 other younger siblings. My dad has not ever paid us any maintenance, or anything towards our up bringing. My mum worked very hard to bring us up. In asian wedding invitations you usually put your parents names, they are the people that invite guests. However my mums paying for the wedding which is about 20 thousand pounds. I feel it should be my mothers name on the invites as she is the one whom has brought us up and the one thats paying for the wedding. I made invites with my mums name on the top but my dads sister said you should have your dads name on the top. I know to some this may seem petty but its quite a big deal to me. My brother phoned my dad and told him he`s getting married. My dad turned around and said give me 500 pound for the ticket and i`ll come to your wedding. I thought that was disgraceful. I would like to know what you all think. regards

Posted by: My thumb is bigger than yours on 2010-07-26, 14:46:25

I had a very similar situation. My father is alive, but might as well be dead to me after all he's done (and not done). My mother's name was put on the invite, but his was not. No one questioned it. I think you should ask your brother this question. It's his wedding, so it's his decision, not your aunt's.

Posted by: Poodie on 2010-07-26, 13:57:37

It's not up to you or your aunt. Your brother should decide this, and it sounds like he'd agree with you. It makes no sense to add the name of a person who isn't involved at all. Congratulations to your brother.

Posted by: Jaded on 2010-07-26, 14:07:20

I would not put his name on the Invitation nor would I invite him. Ask your brother what he wants. Your mom is paying for the wedding, therefore, she should be on the invitation. Your father sounds like a deadbeat and does not deserve any type of acknowledgment.

Posted by: Liz on 2010-07-29, 03:19:35

If your mother is paying for the wedding, she is the host and her name goes on the invitation as the host. Putting the name of someone who has contributed zilch to the wedding would be such a slap in the face for her. Don't listen to your dad's clueless sister.