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Question: What should a bridesmaid wear to a wedding rehearsal?

(Posted by: kristen C on 2009-01-09 12:56:47)

Okay, so, the wedding I'm in is next week (January 17th) and the rehearsal is obviously the day before. It starts at 1pm in the afternoon and I'm totally confused as what to wear. I called the bride to ask what she wanted everyone to wear and she said that she wanted everyone wearing "business casual ". I asked what she was wearing and she said a sundress with a cardigan. Which, to me, doesn't scream business casual. So, now I'm confused as to what to wear! Do I wear something dressy? She said she wanted everyone wearing a dress. It's going to be cold so a sundress does not sound appealing to me! HELP! Thanks for the answers so far! She's sort of a bridezilla...that's why I'm kinda freaking out about it!

Posted by: truefirstedition on 2009-01-09, 14:26:04

So my guess is that the bride doesn't really know what the term "business casual " means. Follow her example, not her words - I would call her outfit "church dressy " - nice enough to wear if you go to church with Grandma, but not super-fancy. Some appropriate options: - black pants and dressy top - casual but nice dress, shoulders covered - dressy skirt and top And you do NOT have to wear a dress if you don't want to, even if she would like you to. You're a grown woman, and the rehearsal dinner isn't her special day - you can wear whatever you like, as long as it's appropriately dressy.

Posted by: Jennifer on 2009-01-09, 13:00:47

Sundress with tights or jeans under?

Posted by: MG on 2009-01-09, 13:00:52

Whoa, that's all over the place! I would wear black slacks, a cute sweater/ shirt and some awesome shoes. It's January! You can't wear a little dress with a cardigan!

Posted by: ginabeaner1213 on 2009-01-09, 13:01:55

If she wants everyone in a dress, then wear one. But thats kind of crazy for her to demand her bridesmaids wear a dress. When I was a bridesmaid I only wore a skirt and a nice top to the rehearsal.

Posted by: lovebug on 2009-01-09, 13:02:01

Wear a knee length or above knee length skirt with a cute sweater and tights. For shoes, either heels or boots. Just make sure you look cute. No one will be taking notes on what who is wearing. Its just the rehearsal, and having dinner afterwards.

Posted by: iloveorlandofl on 2009-01-09, 13:03:19

What about a warm, long sleeve, knee length dress with knee high boots? I agree that a sundress is out for me when it is winter. If you don't have a dress and are worried about freezing, then try true business casual--nice black pants and dressy top/ sweater/ sweater set. You will not look out of place.

Posted by: Kristy on 2009-01-09, 13:05:28

It's always better to be overdressed than underdressed. Based on her wearing a dress and saying "business casual " I would go with dress pants, a nice top or sweater and nice dress flats or heels. Last year I was a bridesmaid in a summer wedding. I was told by the bride that the rehearsal was "casual dress " so I wore dress pants and a sleeveless top with sandals. When I arrived, the bride, the MoH, the readers and the cousins were ALL wearing sundresses - they had decided to after telling me to dress casual. One other BM and I were wearing pants - nice. So, just be prepared! Good luck!

Posted by: kbk823 on 2009-01-09, 13:06:38

Where are you going for the rehersal dinner? I'd dress to fit the dress code of the place that you'll be eating dinner at. Otherwise, I'd go with dressy black pants and a nice top, or a winter dress and high boots.

Posted by: Katie G on 2009-01-09, 13:06:39

Lol, yeah, sundress with cardigan does not mean business casual. That makes me laugh. I want to show that to my boss! Since the rehearsal and dinner are probably indoors, you can still wear a dress and not freeze, just bring a jacket for when you're outside. Wear a tasteful dress, don't go for sexy or slinky. Don't show too much skin. I'd wear something appropriate for a dinner party at my husband's boss' house. You don't want to be the belle of the ball, but you still want to be tasteful and classy. I have no idea what's in your closet, but I hope this helps you decide on something!

Posted by: David F on 2009-01-09, 13:07:55

A sundress? It's snowing here. I hope you're South of the equator. If she wants everyone wearing business casual, and she shows up in a dress, she'll be the center of attention, as she's planning. If she shows up in a sundress, and you do too, there's gonna be drama. If you aren't the bride, follow orders, or bow out. Your turn will come. My wife and I both wore jeans & t-shirts to the rehearsal and following party.

Posted by: PugMom on 2009-01-09, 13:26:09

I'd go with a pair of dress pants/ slacks and a blouse or sweater. Most of the rehearsals I have been to are all casual and everyone dresses up jeans, with a nice top, heels and jewelry.

Posted by: abhi_kenn on 2009-01-09, 13:28:20

Wear a dress with tights and sweater. Its very simple. If the bride wants you to wear specific things to a rehersal she can supply it.

Posted by: Mom_of_one <3 on 2009-01-09, 13:37:34

She is probably wearing a dress because she wants to look nice, she is the center of attention. I would suggest wearing a nice pair of pants and a dressy top. Leave the dress to her.

Posted by: willn2pleaze on 2009-01-09, 14:03:12

It is a rehearsal, what is the big deal about what to wear? wear something comfortable.

Posted by: jennbeavers18 on 2009-01-09, 14:38:34

I think when she said business casual she meant churchy casual. Meaning you would wear what you would if you went to church (classy church, not a casual church) Nice pants, Cute skirt Or for some that means a dress. I wouldn't consider myself a bridezilla at all. I have paid for everything for my bridesmaids and am paying for their accommodations. But when one of my bridesmaids asked what she should wear I said Iw as hoping to wear a dress and she could wear something classy if she wanted. I just wanted to use it as an excuse to dress up. Your friend may be a bridezilla, but in this case I think she wasn't trying to TELL you what to wear but to just help.

Posted by: Veronica on 2009-01-09, 17:59:25

Wear a skirt with tights under with a nice warm dressy sweater. Can't go wrong with that. If the bride complains, just tell her you aren't going to freeze. Seriously, a sundress in January? She can freeze but she can't force you girls to freeze.