Wedding Rehearsal Make Your Own

Question: Who is really supposed to be invited to your wedding rehearsal dinner?

(Posted by: mshaw1986 on 2009-06-16 15:46:03)

Our rehearsal is only a month away and we (meaning me and my mother in law to be (lol!), cannot decide if grandparents are supposed to be there and if aunts and uncles. Basically who comes beside the bridal party???

Posted by: nova_queen_28 on 2009-06-16, 17:22:23

In addition to the bridal party ... anyone who needs to be part of the rehearsal. Such as ... If you have readers or ushers who aren't considered part of the bridal party - - they would attend the rehearsal so they know when to get up and what to do. Parents of the bride & groom so they know the order they are supposed to be escorted to their seats. And of course, the father of the bride (assuming you have one) to practice walking the bride down the aisle. If you are including your grandparents as part of the group of people being escorted down the aisle, it would make sense for them to be there for the rehearsal. If they are not taking part, then they do not need to be there. I've heard more recently that people will invite out-of-town guests to the rehearsal, but this is not a requirement.

Posted by: Erika. on 2009-06-16, 15:53:47

Every one who is IN the wedding

Posted by: Anne C on 2009-06-16, 15:56:05

The rehearsal dinner is supposed to follow the rehearsal and basically be a thank you to everyone who is playing a part in your wedding. Typically out of town guests are also invited because its assumed they have nothing to do in an unfamillar town on the eve of the wedding.

Posted by: anonymous on 2009-06-16, 16:01:27

Bridesmaids groomsman ushers ----- AND all of the above's significant others (not just dates, but if they are married, engaged or in a relationship with someone, you need to invite them as well.) parents possibly grandparents relatives that are out of town guests - this happened at our rehearsal last week because my aunt and uncle and grandpa live out of town and were staying with my parents so it wouldn't have been appropriate to leave them at home

Posted by: Laura-Michelle on 2009-06-16, 16:05:59

Everyone that will be part of the wedding not necessicarily your guest though

Posted by: Chicago Lawyer on 2009-06-16, 16:07:30

Bride and Groom Bride and Groom's Parents All the bridesmaids + any significant others invited to the wedding All the groomsman + any significant others invited to the wedding All the ushers + any significant others invited to the wedding All the readers + any significant others invited to the wedding The officiant + spouse

Posted by: [[<3]] on 2009-06-16, 16:14:17

Usually its the bridal party attending there the Bride & groom give their BM & GM their gifts & thank them for being in the wedding the flower girl/ ring bearer are also a part of the bridal party extended fam & out of town guests can attend because usually the rehearsal dinner is a night before the actual wedding it is paid & hosted by the groom's fam [[traditionally]] it can be from a bbq to a very formal event my wedding is on nov 7th & im having my RD on nov 4th [[wed & my b-day]] just because i feel that i won't have time a night before im going to be too busy we are inviting our BM & GM & our parents of course lol that's pretty much it we will probably do a bbq outside if it's not too cold otherwise it will be inside the house & we are not inviting children because there will be drinking and its inappropriate for children they will get bored! & if my grandparents are here from Mexico by then then of course they will be there too but i think they will be getting here the day before the wedding!

Posted by: just me! on 2009-06-16, 16:20:06

The bridal party and your parents if they are hosting it! that's it! not the bridal parties spouses or dates or kids or anyone else! just the bridal party! that's all its ever been! over the past few years people have started inviting a lot of guests to the rehearsal dinner and that's not right. this is the evening you all have to get things down pat, this is the last evening y'all have to just relax, unwind and enjoy each others company. and if you have gifts for your bridal party this is the time to present them! good luck sweetie and have a wonderful wedding!

Posted by: bride2be09 on 2009-06-16, 18:37:04

Anyone specifically in the wedding (bridal party, readers, singers, officiant), plus their spouses/ SO's if able, plus immediate family and grandparents. Out of town guests are sometimes invited but I'd say only if there's just a few, and from a significant distance (not just a couple hours). If the majority of people are from out of town, then totally not necessary as it would become a second reception. Feel lucky your FMIL is consulting with you! Mine's going the "second reception "/ "let's compete with the wedding " route.