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Question: I need some pre-wedding tips/suggestions....?

(Posted by: CB on 2007-02-26 21:36:50)

I am getting married in a months time......would appreciate if you guys can give me any pre- wedding tips....i am very nervous but happy & excited..... P.S. Only married people answer.......n serious suggestions, no jokes phlz....

Posted by: HDoyle1967 on 2007-02-26, 21:44:41

Every time you get nervous, think of how much you love your partner and tell yourself you are doing this because you both love each other so much. Remember its a unity of two people becomming as one. That is a precious gift, its something that you can only give each other. It is nervracking and stressful, but the outcome can be so loving and sharing and joining of two loves as one. Thinking of yourselves as part of the Father, joining two people He loves as one person, who makes you whole. Life is too short to live with regret, live, love, and laugh and remember communications is the key to any relationship. Take care Heather

Posted by: poison_ivy_red on 2007-02-26, 21:45:49

Remember that a wedding is about the joining of a couple in love NOT about a dress, a cake, a DJ or family drama. If it doesn't all go as planned, don't sweat it. It's about LOVE not stuff!! There is nothing sadder than a bride with worry written all over her face instead of a smile. CONGRATS!!!

Posted by: Sher on 2007-02-26, 21:48:10

This is an exciting time for you! A little anxiety is very normal; this is a huge change in your life. Stop every now and then to relax and catch your breath. Five minutes of deep breathing will help you calm down a little. Hug your fiance a lot. Remind each other why you are taking this joyous but scary step in your lives. Don't let bridal jitters destroy this magical time. Wishing you and your love a marriage as wonderful as mine is... Happily married Mrs. for twenty years. PS Mr. Happily Married agrees! ;-)

Posted by: Jeevan Kumar Mittal, 1956 on 2007-02-26, 21:48:19

Always do as desired by you. Doing what you like is liberty, liking what you do is happiness. Jeeyo aur jeene do. Khoob sunao aur khoob sunane do. Manchaha karo aur manchaha karne do Manchaha khao aur manchaha khane do. God bless you. Best wishes for happy and long married life in advance from a father of 2 daughers (1 married 4 weeks ago) Marriage is partnership. Must get 50%, must give to husband other 50%. Win and allow him to win.

Posted by: hell hath no fury on 2007-02-26, 21:48:43

Okay, if you are going to get waxed, and haven't before (for your wedding), do it three weeks beforehand. Why so long? Because i said so! No, because if you have an adverse reaction, you will have time to heal, so no red bumps, and if you don't, you still won't want to kill your husband when he touches your legs or anything else because they are sore from waxing. Also, DO NOT drink to cure nervousness before the wedding. Many women do this, and then drink too much, and end up saying things that they wouldn't have said or getting sick (not lots of fun). And don't get two bridesmaids who typically flirt excessively. they will turn your wedding into a skank fest, or don't get two that don't care for each other, because there will be wench-induced drama.

Posted by: llywarch_dindaethwy on 2007-02-26, 21:50:26

After marriage you have to change your time outlook. When you are young and dating, if the other person annoys you, you can break up and move on. Once you are married this can't happen! (Well it can, but it shouldn't.) Now instead of thinking in days etc. you need to start thinking in terms of years! A good guideline is to include the time you have been dating and consider them all good years, and then every year you sit down and decide if it was a good year or a bad year. Then if the bad years ever out number the good years by more then 2, you can start to consider if this relationship should last. So assuming you have dated at least 2 years, and that the first year is also mostly good, you now have to have at least five bad years before you consider ending it. Also remember that during the bad years you MUST work on fixing any problems. Good Luck

Posted by: Denise on 2007-02-26, 21:50:35

A tip I have is not to stress out too much, especially when something unexpected happens. My bridesmaids' dresses weren't ready until 2 days before the wedding and I was about to explode! Try to do some fun things with your friends if you have time. Another tip is get prepared to change your name for your SSN card and driver's license and get ready to get your wedding license. I'm not sure about your state, but in TN it was good for 30 days and they wouldn't let brides hyphate their names because of that whole terrorist deal. You won't be able to change your information without the wedding license so if you can get it ASAP, you can change everything before your honeymoon without worrying. And don't forget the license before the ceremony. :) I guess my final tip is to start wrapping things up so you don't have to do a lot of last-minute stuff. If you trust your wedding party, have them help. P.S. Do you have your bridesmaids' gifts lined up?

Posted by: deepaklbhatia on 2007-02-26, 21:50:43

First of all congratulations. Next , you be happy & remain excited.....it is the beauty of marriage. Good Luck.

Posted by: Mangy Coyote on 2007-02-26, 22:00:32

1. Don't sweat the small stuff, and remember it's all small stuff when it comes to the wedding. If the centerpieces aren't exactly right, no big deal, few people will remember them in a week. The important thing is not the appearance of stuff, but that you and your future spouse get to profess your love through vows before God, your family, and each other. 2. Don't let your "friends " freak you out by telling you about how their marriages suck, or how they heard crap about your fiance, or any of that crap. 3. Don't compare notes of bachelor/ bachelorette parties. Don't let your friends feed you data either. One or both of you may just end up needlessly jealous or angry. 4. Get plenty of rest. You'd be surprised how many brides and grooms consummate their marriage by falling asleep after the excitement of the ceremony and reception. By the end of the night, they are too exhausted for the "dream night " they had planned. 5. Stay sober. Many that don't fall asleep as in paragraph 4 above end up passing out or throwing up all night (how romantic), or spend their first morning married trying to rid themselves of a hangover and trying to remember if it was as they expected. 6. Don't rely on the photographer. There will be tons going on that day, so have lots of friends and family take pictures. You may want to put disposable cameras on the tables at the reception with a note to have them dropped off with a designated person at the end of the evening. You can then develop pictures and have a great album of things you never even knew were happening. 7. Don't second guess yourself. You have chosen to marry this guy, based on the fact that you LOVE him. Don't try to talk yourself into believing you should wait until Bon Jovi or some other hot shot knight in shining armor will come for you. You have your knight; he'll be the nervous guy in the tuxedo with a ring in his hand... 8. Realize that you are going to be nervous. Make sure your friends and family don't let you go off the deep end (I've seen video of women cutting their own hair just before the ceremony because it wasn't perfect). Trust them, they will not let you down, they haven't yet, or you wouldn't have them there now. 9. Be careful about sowing those last minute wild oats. Sometimes that "one more time before I'm married " attitude can cause problems that cannot be undone, and can cause friction in the marriage from the start. Better to avoid those situations. 10. Have fun. This will be among the most important days in your life. I guarantee you that it won't be perfect; the day after it happens, you will pick apart all kinds of stuff, even the way the band missed a note on your favorite song. But as time passes, you will realize that even the imperfections of the day add to the perfection of the experience. Congratulations and best wishes.

Posted by: pankaj s on 2007-02-26, 22:05:02

Congratulations....... You are entering in new phase of life, things will drastically change. Apart from your life partner other relative will also interfere in your life. You will become sister in law, daughter in law, aunt etc. to someone and start feeling as if you are carrying lot of responsibilities on your shoulder. Relax everything will be fine there are people out there to take care of your nervousness. Don't worry be happy enjoy new face of your life , probably a nice honeymoon to start with . Best wishes.

Posted by: bd834 on 2007-02-26, 22:22:03

Congrads! Enjoy the day and don't freak out. Don't worry about the food. Make sure that you have a good Wedding Videographer! A picture's worth a thousand words. Each second of video has 24 pictures a second and sometimes 30. (Seriously, your kids will thank you!) Jeff

Posted by: suvada7 on 2007-02-26, 22:24:28

It is good that You starting married life. wish u a happy married life . It is your life and you will happy only after adjustment. In sex also both of you should trust each other. You are human beings and both need each others support. Sex is need of body and need gives birth to demands. Demands can be fullfilled by supply only No special tips required go and enjoy your life but see that you are not loosing balance at crucial stage. ok ok

Posted by: Ruth V on 2007-02-26, 23:21:54

First things first.....things will go wrong on the day of the wedding. Once you can accept that, then you're ready to go. Don't get upset about the aunt who ate 2 plates of food, or the kiddies running around the dance floor, or your mother-in-law crying and saying how much she's going to miss her "baby ". Enjoy the moment, your family, his family, people who came from all over to share your day with you....everything. And, be grateful for what you have. Been married for 10 years.

Posted by: friday2011 on 2007-02-26, 23:49:49

I just got married on the 16th..here are some things that helped me out. -Exercise! I turned my workout up a notch and it helped me relieve stress and kept me feeling good about my body. -Saying no. The closer I got to the date the more everyone wanted to do something with me..like lunches and shopping and go out drinking. While it made me feel wanted I turned many of the invites down because I knew it would get in the way of making preperations. You'll have plenty of time to celebrate after the big day..keep the social obligations to a minimum. -Back rubs for your guy. I gave my husband back rubs and back scratches because it helped him get rid of stress. Which made me feel less stressed and nervous. And he always would give me a rub back..very nice! -Get all the paperwork ready. You can print out lots of the forms you need for marriage certificates and for your social security change and all of that stuff right off their websites. I printed them..filled them out..got all the documents I needed together and stuck them in a school folder. After the wedding I grabbed my folder and went to the offices and got all of my certificate and changes done in one afternoon. This also applies to thank you cards and wedding announcements if you are sending out any. Get those together, stamp them, and leave them for after your day. -Watch a movie together. Comedy..romance..whatever. It helps to take a few hours to veg out and spend some time together and getting into a good movie is a good way to forget about stressful junk. Plus you get to eat popcorn and snuggle. Have fun and enjoy youself and your new husband on your special day.

Posted by: snapper on 2007-02-27, 04:04:07

Make sure you have joint accounts and tht yourname is on the house. Other than that just relax and go with the flow.

Posted by: Testaco on 2007-02-27, 04:06:50

Everyone's giving you some great advice, so here's just a little more - have a reliable person in charge of the entire ceremony, who knows were everyone and everything is supposed to be. Over the next few weeks, involve him/ her as much as everything, introduce him/ her to everyone. This is the person in charge of making sure that you are not calling anyone or ensuring anything happens on the day. One important thing to keep in mind - as complicated and stressful as this is, you are only organising a single day's events. So treat it as such :-) As part of your final organising, sit down and make a plan for the entire day from start to finish. What time you'll wake up, who will be at the bride's house and how they'll get there, what they'll do there and when, ditto for the groom's house, when you'll go to the church, who needs to be at the church beforehand and when, who's going to help them do this, when the church ends, how your photo shoot is being done, what time you'll be at the reception, stuff that needs to be done at your reception beforehand, order of events at the reception, and when it all finishes, what time you and your groom leave. Do this list with as many people possible. This is the best possible way to leave as little as possible to chance. Then, ensure that every single step does not require you to ensure it happens. Proper planning means that you will virtually not be necessary. After this, and all the ensuing questions and stressing that this will create as you realise all the stuff you haven't done yet and oh my God there's so little time yet - you will breeze through your wedding, and enjoy it - because it will be your day, and yours - and your groom's - to enjoy. Best wishes.

Posted by: hiphop gal on 2007-02-27, 06:23:03

Dont get nervous, congrats!!!

Posted by: mlpluvsya on 2007-02-27, 07:49:55

Enjoy every second of the day...it will go faster than your realize. GET A VIDEOGRAPHER.

Posted by: cnsone on 2007-02-27, 17:43:05

Assuming that both of you are likely to have sex for the first time better go prepared for your honeymoon with some lubricant. Caveat. Don't blame me if your husband starts doubting you as to why you brought it!

Posted by: sweety on 2007-02-28, 02:48:07

Hey, you want tips on what .... ok in general, i amy give you tips if you are a shot tempered person, do not show the anger in your face for firs few days of your marriage. (to elders at the family - if you are not much familiar wiht them) do not argue unnecesarily, simply watche and learn the attitudes of people and then act accordingly. sorry these seem to post wedding tips, pre wedding tips on beauty stop eating sweets from now onwards, so that you need not develop pimples (if you are prone to that) you should look stunning on you wedding. be calm , prepare a list of things to buy from safety pin to jewellery, and strike off as you buy, so that you may not miss anything. thats all wish you a very happy and successfull married life